What are you afraid of? Make a mental list. What’s getting in the way of you getting more life? Fears? Apprehension? Hesitation? Anxiety? How about this–fear LESS.
Fear less. Fear fewer things. The fears that you do have, is it possible to reduce them? To lessen them?
Here’s a really old middle-eastern proverb:
The lazy person claims, “There’s a lion on the road! Yes, I’m sure there’s a lion roaming the streets!”
It’s from the sluggard’s mouth-whose imagination prompts even the most absurd of fears. It’s kind of like waking up and saying, “Man, I shouldn’t go outside today. It’s so sunny, I might get cancer.” Or even, “I can’t face today, what if I someone finds out at work that I’m not good at what I do?”
Our fears are real. As in we really experience or “feel” them. But our fears are rarely external reality. They are the absolute worst-case scenarios that our minds can concoct. What I consider to be one of my greatest obstacles to become a better man (read: a more consistent man) is invalidating fears that I’ve given validity to.
I know you’ve got fears. And I think it’s a valid experience to be afraid of something. We’ve all been there. You might expect me to advise you to close your eyes and make your fears disappear because they’re false. Oh if it were only that easy.
I don’t think the irradication of fears is easy. To fully rid yourself of fear, to become truly fearless, is impossible. Or the result of extreme ignorance.
A Starting Point to Fear Less
What I suggest is this—a starting point. Do you feel that your fears are too big to get over? Too big to face? Then start by fearing less. Either fear less things, or whatever subject you do fear, fear less of it.
Here’s some fears I’ve felt before, and that I want to fear less:
What could happen if I don’t make it? Fear of failure
What if I don’t matter? Fear of being insignificant
What if I end up alone? Fear of loneliness
I think it’s impossible to fully avoid thinking of these fears ever again. But we can make a choice–to lessen their hold on us. Start here: Identify the fear, and evaluate if it’s real. Once you’ve exposed yourself to the truth of whether or not that fear is real, then it’ll be a lot easier to fear less.
We’ve really dove into this subject on evaluating and overcoming fears in the past couple months. Check out the articles below to learn more as you continue on your journey to “fear less.”