Welcome to Fearless Men
A blog for those interested in Manly topics that haven’t bought into today’s status quo for men. Macho-sized, overtly sexualized, brash and brazen manhood is on the defining forefront of men’s magazines and websites. Sure, a man can be strong, buff and bold, but does he take responsibility and live with the consequences? Is he standing out and stepping up in today’s world?
Co-authored by John and Todd, who recently emerged from their twenties and want to share their ideas and experiences for all to read and engage in.
Why Fearless Men?
Fearless Men are not afraid to take on responsibility. They aren’t controlled by fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear of not being accepted. Fear that renders us ineffective. Fear is an emotion that can overcome us if we let it.
Fearless Men is a growing community that strives to become better men. We don’t let fear drive us into weak commitment or flimsy choices. At the core of our values we strive to face and move past fear with Courage, Integrity, Wisdom, Sacrifice, Honor and taking Responsibility.
When I (John) hear the word fearless the first thing that comes to mind is spear-in-hand facing down the wolf, like King Leonidas in the movie 300. And throughout my life being a student, serving in the Army, traveling around the world, becoming a Christ-follower, working in corporate America, being a brother, boyfriend, and observing other men I’ve come to realize that there are other just as important ways of being fearless – The Fearless Men values.
I always felt I skipped a grade somewhere. There is no school to learn these values, but we enter manhood expected to be men. Life presents us with opportunities that challenge our values everyday – Tough decisions and easy choices. It all comes down to decisions made in a moment that form who we are for life. Fearless to me means having the courage to make the right decision when called upon. And when I stumble the courage to try again.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt, “Man in the Arena” Speech, given April 23, 1910
I (Todd) know that manning up and facing our fears, insecurities and shortcomings takes courage, yeah, but more than anything–a choice.
I believe that manhood isn’t defined by pink vs. blue, being overtly sexual, how many chicks you bang, or being a total hard-ass in public. I’m certain that manhood is defined by choices. Daily, weekly, yearly, over and over again. The choices to sharpen, refine, and grow.
To me manhood is taking responsibility and living with the consequences.
Today I see young “males” and think that boys don’t became men at age 18. Or 20. Possibly not at 25. Many guys not even at 30. I see some guys in their early 20’s that have kids that I still would consider pre-pubescent, paper-thin, self-centered sacks of organs and bones. Males are seemingly in an ever-extending phase of adolescence. This irritates me. Makes my blood boil. But part of me feels bad. Some guys have no idea. So I’m inspired to write to the 20-40 year-old crowd that’s looking for a way in this confusing world.
In the words of John Wayne:
“Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyway.”
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