After yesterday’s excellent post by guest blogger Anna on How To Make A Good First Impression: Get The Next Date Right, I was thinking about that “next date.” A big part of making a good first impression is knowing where to go on a first date.
While chewing on and searching for this subject, I found this excellent infographic from Alex Cornell.
Where To Go On A First Date: A Reverse Synopsis
Sports Bar: Even if you’re dating a sporty girl, this location doesn’t scream romantic nor does downing hot wings provide for you to present yourself as the smooth James Bond type I know you aspire to be.
Some Live Concert: I never would have put this at the bottom of the list. It all makes perfect sense now. Loud music, screaming in a girls ear, awkward breaks in conversation because it’s oh-so-loud = not conducive to a first date. I immediately think back to a third date with a woman–a musician–and we didn’t know each other well enough to be at a concert. Unless it was quiet during set changes we struggled to assert ourselves in conversation.
The Cliche Restaurant: Not sure if I would have put it this low on the list because it is so common, but unless you’ve already established some comfortable conversation rapport this can be a tough joint to make fun, flirty, and exciting. If choosing this as where to go on a first date, I hope it doesn’t feel like a business dinner.
Movie Theater: I haven’t taken a girl on a first date to a movie since the 8th grade.
A Friend’s Party: This can be a great spot if she’s confident and likes to make new friends. You can be in your element. Or, if you go to her friend’s party, show her how much you enjoy mingling with new people while portraying how UN-needy you are for her attention at every turn. This also takes a bit of the social pressure off two people when going on a first date.
The “Original” Idea: Alex makes a good point here that day-time first dates can really smell of “friend-zone.”
Not So Crowded Lounge: The reasoning here is perfect. It’s not too loud to be overwhelming, but forces you to get cozy. If you are enjoying the start of the evening, get more drinks or mosey on to the next location and keep the momentum going.