In the words of Carl Bard, “Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” This is a great truth that can be realized today. But sometimes to get to a fresh start, we’ve got to stop doing some things.
If you’re looking for some things to cut out and wondering what to stop doing, here’s a list to get you rolling:
Stop spending time with the wrong people.
Hanging out with people who suck the happiness out of you? Cut them loose. Do you often complain about the same people? Either you’re a trash-talker or you’re kicking it with the wrong people.
Remember it’s not the people who stand by you when you’re at your best that most loyal to you, but when you’re at your worst.
Stop eating foods that make you tired.
Stop moping over that girl who wronged you.
If you keep bumming yourself and your buddies out about a girl, it’s time to forgive and do your best to forget. Sure, that “scar” will need time to continue to fade, but you’ve got to make a decision to not devote so much time to being down in the dumps about her.
Stop not getting enough sleep.
If you’re consistently dragging at work, it may be depression. Depression might be because you’re not getting enough sleep. Or maybe it’s not depression. You’re just a tired sack of bones.
Stop working at a job that you hate.
Miserable at work? Stop whining. Find a job you like, even if it pays a little less.
I’m not encouraging you to drop the ball today. You’ve got to pay the bills. If you’re in debt, get out of debt. Don’t drop a job then start looking for a new one. But if you’re unhappy at your job, for reasons other than yourself, then start looking for a new job. Once you’ve been hired at said job, give at least two-weeks notice at the job you’re exiting.
I really don’t have anything to add here…just stop doing it.
Stop spending money you don’t have.
Racking up credit card debt or borrowing too much from friends? Only spend money that you already have earned.
Stop doing that lying to yourself thing.
It really is possible. If you’ve been ignoring and running from your problems, stop pretending they’re not there. You’re not Aladdin’s Genie. You can’t shut your eyes and dream your problems away. The first step to moving forward is to be honest with yourself. Honest about what needs to change and improve.
Stop beating yourself up for old mistakes.
Wringing your hands over regrets can be a paralyzing circumstance. Don’t do it. Think through it. Identify and enter the pain. Go ahead and loath yourself for a moment. But once you’ve entered that pain and have processed it, you’ve got to let it go.
Stop looking to others for happiness.
Other’s can’t fulfill you. Not that relationships don’t breath life into us. But if you are looking for a specific one or two people for happiness, you’ll easily become unhappy when they don’t fulfill your expectations. And they will probably feel like you’ve become controlling or an overbearing burden in the process.
Stop fearing new relationships because of bad past experiences.
Ouch. We’ve all been hurt by family, friends, or that girl. But we can’t let that create an emotional and mental roadblock to try again. If you live life alone, you’re bound to die alone.
Stop letting others bring you down to their level.
Sick of people being immature or bringing drama into your life? Do you find yourself drawn into quarrels? Refuse to be sucked in. Step away and refuse to involve yourself.
Stop blaming others for your problems.
Do you know what the common denominator is between all of your drama, work problems, and unhappiness? You. You’re the person central to all that. If you keep experiencing the same ‘ol problem, the same ‘ol problem may be you.
Stop focusing on what you don’t have.
I met a guy that owned a real estate and mortgage company 10 years ago. He was making $2-3 million a year. He bought a Lamborghini. A friend called him and said, “So you’ve got your Lambo. You know that the only direction you can go now is down, right?” And after a month, that Lambo was just a car. What was he going to get next? Even a Bentley seemed like a step down.
If you continue to covet what you don’t have, you’re focusing on the wrong things. Because once you have those things, you won’t find yourself fulfilled. So, be grateful for what you do have…
Stop being ungrateful.
One of the greatest cures I’ve found to my emotional ills is to be thankful for what I do have. If I continually concentrate on wants and what I think are my “needs,” I’ll stay down in the gutters. It’s time to be grateful and thankful for what’s going right in life.
Know what to stop doing, and think about what to start doing.
This post isn’t meant to be a drag. But to inspire you to think about what as men we really do need to stop doing. Once you’ve started cutting out some “fat” in life, keep moving forward with what you know you’re doing right.
The chief beauty about time is that you cannot waste it in advance. The next year, the next day, the next hour are lying ready for you, as perfect, as unspoiled, as if you had never wasted or misapplied a single moment in all your life. You can turn over a new leaf every hour if you choose. -Arnold Bennett